It has been a very festive few days! I’m loving the Christmas season this year. For several years when the boys were younger, Christmas was more of a stress than a blessing. I feel like we are in a new season, with the boys being a bit older, more obedient, more helpful, and more perceptive about Advent and Christmas. They appreciate the decorations and the festivities and that makes me all the more motivated to put some effort into everything.
And, we are officially on Christmas break! I confess, I’ve grown to love the routine and regularity of our school schedule. Both boys are doing well, and though I still struggle with mom-guilt to even type this, having the boys out of the house under the instruction of their teachers each day seems to be a benefit for everyone in our house.
I often look into the lives of families that homeschool, and think we “should” be able to do that and have it work out so wonderfully, but in truth I don’t have the temperament for it as a mom. At least not for our boys. They are both quite strong willed and need a lot of structure coupled with a kind, gentle personality (which they both have received in their amazing teachers this year!).
All of that to say, I’ve come to realize that I enter any kind of extended break from school with mixed feelings. On one hand I am looking forward to more time together, the avoidance of the morning feat of getting two boys out the door in the morning, and more flexibility in the day. On the other hand I get nervous that they will be at each others’ throats constantly, that I’ll have to field 50 million requests to “do something fun”, and that we will inevitable end up watching way too many movies.
I’ve been trying to just let go of expectations and know that sibling fighting is normal, asking to “do something fun” does not mean I’ve created entitled, bored, non-creative monsters, it just means that 2 kids have suddenly gone from busy days full of activities to a whole lot of white space on their little calendars. And the movies? I’m temporarily setting aside the AAP recommendation that has legalistically hounded me in my own mind for so many years about “no more than 2 hours of TV a day” because when you all have pink-eye on your first day of break and your mom is trying her best not to lose her patience with anyone on this day of catching up with laundry, baking, food-prepping, and administering eye drops bilaterally to three kids, watching 2 full length movies plus 3 or 4 episodes of curious george in the span of 12 hours is completely acceptable. I mean, that’s still over 50% of their waking hours NOT spent watching TV yes?
So, fellow moms, join me in taking a chill pill this break. Let go of expectations, other peoples’ rules, and all the triggers that will drive you right out of your own mind and just enjoy your kids and the special time of anticipating the birth of Christ and all the merriment that goes along with it.
Now, onto what I’m thankful for (there is more and more every day it seems!). As I’ve said before, if you havent’ yet started the intentional practice of finding three things to be thankful for everyday I urge you to DO IT! The joy goes up and the internal (and external) bemoaning goes down.
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I’m thankful I get to be a stay at home mom. Though I’m not wired to homeschool, I do get to volunteer in the classroom with both of our boys. Tuesday I got to wear my pajamas to the Polar Express party in Kindergarten. One little boy said “this is the best party I’ve ever been to.” Their teacher is so awesome. She had hot chocolate, popcorn, and Polar Express playing on the big screen.
Before I went down to the school that morning, I got a text from my friend who works with the Kindergarteners with this picture!
I’m just more thankful than you could even imagine that this boy is succeeding in school and sharing love and respect when he is there!
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I’m thankful we had warm temps for a day to compact the snow a little bit because the sledding conditions are now AH-mazing. The boys watched a lot of TV yesterday, but they also made it outside a couple times for some speedy sledding on the hill!
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I’m thankful for a hilarious husband. Once he’s home after work I can barely go five minutes without laughing. He can reframe anything to be funny. He has a reputation for breaking awkward moments with humor. He is such a gift!
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I’m thankful for my great-great-grandma’s cookie recipe. How neat that it’s in her handwriting. I love that it says “Gold Medal” in place of flour because back when she wrote this there was probably only one kind of flour on the shelf! Now we have to pick between 50 kinds. I would love to go backward to a little more simplicity!
BTW, these cookies are delicious. Feel free to use the recipe!
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I’m thankful for a long slow day forced by illness to get out some things that we don’t usually play with. Nick got his straws out and then discovered that they were dirty inside at which point I urged him to throw them away and wait until some new ones arrived that I ordered from Amazon. Of course that was an unacceptable plan so he got a pumper of hand soap and carefully squirted soap down the straw and sucked water up and then blew it back down over and over until he felt like he had sufficiently washed the inside of his straws. So gross. At least he’ll have resilient guts.
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I’m thankful for this truth! Oh, how he loves us. He totally didn’t have to enter into this space to rescue a bunch of rebellious kids, but He did. How incredibly generous. That’s some kind of incredible love. I’m going to try to center myself on this truth for the rest of this week as we prepare our hearts to celebrate Christmas!
Happy Christmas week friends. I hope your day is full of hope and grace. I hope you get a chance to love in unlikely and unexpected ways. I hope you find the individual gifts of grace given to us from our Father, smattered all over our lives if we will just open our eyes and look.